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There are a lot of mysteries in the world around us, but
the biggest one is just inside. It's possible to read
mountains of psychological books and still know nothing
about the reason of our acts. It seems some questions
are without answers and we aren't able to reach the
moment, when everything could be easy and clear. There
are eternal fights among parents and kids, men and
women; if we aren't enough gifted to understand
ourselves so what to say about others. Sure, some lucky
ones can live without much thinking, but even they (like
every of us) are interested in talking about themselves.
It's an old rule for the successful conversation - to
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I’m not a professional psychologist and
perhaps someone could say that it would be better don’t
touch such delicate things like our inner world. First of all let
me remind you that everyone is a psychologist at least a little.
Living among people we have to know the main laws of
communication. Well, sometimes there are such situations when the
professional advice is needed but in the most other cases a good
talk with friend can help. Here in Russia we haven’t so many
psychoanalytic like in America. With our problems and troubles we
go to friends or family. I’ve read a lot of psychological
books thanks to my best friend who studied Psychology at the
university and brought them to me. Later some students from her
group have become my friends, too. They are the same people like
every one of us, their problems are the same. From that time I’ve
understood that there isn’t any perfect specialist who would
come and help me fight all my problems. Our destiny is in our
hands. Perhaps I’m wrong but people seems to me like islands
in the ocean, we can shout something from one island to another,
send advice with mail pigeons but nobody come to solve our
problems. Let’s try to make bridges among the islands and
win the fight with loneliness!
Living
with SMA doesn't make life easier. Every day brings a new
row of problems, which could seem absolutely impossible to
go through. Besides the prisoner style of life makes one
feel completely isolated. Here in Russia the most of
disabled persons are condemned to stay among four walls of
their homes with no chance to meet people, to lead normal
life. The wheelchair is as useful in the street as a bike in
the bog; there isn't a building without stairs, no special
transport, no service to help. I know by my own example how
hard to stay at home for long months waiting few
possibilities to go for a walk. It's easy to make a big
mistake and start considering that only you are so unhappy.
Health people have their own load of troubles and problems,
the destiny never forget anyone and share black and white
among all of us. The secret of happiness is very simple -
notice good things and count them every day. Who knows this
rule is able to be calm, serene and merry in any
circumstance. Alas, it's easier to give advice than lead it.
Perhaps, some of the articles from this part of the site
could be useful for you. I wouldn't like to say only about
disabled persons' problems, putting the wall and separating
us in two camps. Write me and tell about your point of view
on the happy life secrets. Share experience of going through
hard days, may be your words could help others at right
moment. |
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